A few days ago my girl was sharing with me that she was reading about the Titanic in her English class. The conversation went something like this:
HER: ya, if I was on the sinking boat with Dad, I would not jump into the life boat.
ME: why not?
HER: I would not want to leave him.
ME: And if you were on the sinking ship with me?
HER: I would jump in the life boat.
ME: And leave me?
HER: oh yah.
ME: (genuinely hurt)…really? You would leave me to sink?
ME: That is horrible.
HER: I speak the truth.
Many times in our relationship she has said things that come out so unfiltered, yet I am mostly able to recognize that and move on. This one hurt. It wasn’t until she really looked at my face did she see the pain. It was then she said, “I was kidding…”
I don’t think she was kidding.
It has now gone from a painful exchange to a joke. When she asks me for something, I remind her that she better not leave me on that sinking ship or she would be outta luck!