It is really meaningless to her. What is the purpose in telling someone you love them? To her it is a given and definitely not needed to share.
Today I gave her a checklist. I was in and out working all day and I needed to ensure that she ate lunch and came out of her cave. Her brothers do a good job but a list often does a better job.
The list included a variety of tasks. Eat lunch, wash your bedding, play with the dogs, have a healthy snack, and the push—text your mother that you love her. Here is how it came down:
Me: did you see your list?
Her: Yes mother
Her: I am finished with my list.
Me: I did not get a text.
Her: I maybe love you.
Me: I maybe love you too.
Her: Mom, I know you love me. Don’t play me like that.
Autism. I love it.