Part of the unfolding of my life has been removing the barriers and the layers of unneccessary beliefs and stories that I had made up about myself. It has also been deciding that enough is enough and then committing to change. Part of those changes have been breaking cycles of dysfunction not only to better myself, but to also be an example, especially to my kids.
Becoming a young mom required me to become selfless at a really young age. As much as I treasured having three little humans to care for and love, it was not until I was about thirty-five that I began to give to myself as much as I gave to them. I am not sure that even if I had the do-over I would change anything. Of course it would have been possible to give to both them and myself, but the wake up that I had in my mid-thirties was absolutely perfect as it was.
The process of waking up was the beginning of me taking back my power–grabbing back the light that I truly am and stoking the flame with goodness. I found my soul purpose work, I reclaimed my physical health, I took hold of my inherent love and began to blossom into who I am today.
The cycle of self-loathing and self-destructive behaviors ended and with complete affirmation–I decided that there would be no more. I took back my health, my emotions, my dreams and my mojo.
It struck me the other day that there is another cycle that I have the power to break.
Here is what it has looked like in my family–live and die fairly financially strapped. Perhaps living month to month with no real financial future like retirement funds, second homes, investments. Except for my father who died very wealthy but chose to not inherit any of the funds to myself or my kids, my family has been very “middle class”. Personally, I have never experienced a windfall–no big settlements from a divorce, not one alimony check (it was rare to even get child support), money from a wealthy relative, no big real estate wins….nada. Sadly, my children’s father died incredibly broke and had chosen to not have life insurance, so he left my kids with nothing but heartache. And so the cycle was continued for them.
But I have the power to change that.
I realized the other morning that just as I have changed old beliefs and pattens and then created an amazing life, I also have the power to do the same with money for my kids. It hit me that everything that I have achieved has been my own doing from decades of really hard work, and that although I have demonstrated great work-ethic to my kids, I have the power to change their lives. They learned how to work and be self-sufficient, they learned how to budget and live within their means, they have eaten ramen for weeks on end in order to pay rent.
But what would happen if they were given something I have never been given? What if they had help buying their first home? What if their dreams could come true with the gift of financial freedom? What if they had the financial security that I never had?
I have the power to change their lives.
I have the power to break the cycle of financial dysfunction.
I have the power to leave not just a legacy, but also security.
I have the power. Say that out loud a few times and just watch what happens to your confidence.