It is funny how this time of year always brings a set of emotions that range from grief to gratitude, and everything in between. This year especially I am finding myself even more in need for solitude as I navigate the sea of feelings that I seem to be experiencing.
This month I have witnessed the most beautiful moment as my sweet grand-baby took her first breath. It was truly magical. Within days of being consumed with a love I did not know existed, I learned of those sweet souls I have known in my work who took their very last breath. I was reminded again that within those two important breaths, life offers so much joy and an often an equal amount of pain. Ultimately it is what we do with both that makes our life have meaning.
Twenty five years ago I lost a dream and gained a purpose. While on one hand having a child with a disability has been one of the hardest things I have done, it is also the source of my direction. So the paradox is one that I allow my mind to explore.
It is often during this week every year that I allow myself to ask the “what ifs”; what if she was typical, what if she was graduating college, what if she was getting married, what if she was having a baby, etc. On the flip side of those questions I look at who she is and what she has given me; purpose, direction, unconditional love, simplicity, and a divine plan.
This paradox of life and death, grief and gratitude, loss and gain, joy and pain always finds me to be remarkable. I suppose it is just like everything in life–temporary. So that breath I just took in, I must also be let go.
And so is life.
I have decided yet again that the space between the first and the last is truly where LIFE exists–love, magic, connection, acceptance, passion and purpose. So, we must learn to lean into the joys and the pains because it is just part of what is.
I am incredibly grateful that I have had time alone in the trees to figure all this out and makes sense and peace with what is. What I have come to know is that all things happen as they should and it is a choice as to what I do with it.
Today, I choose gratitude for being given the gift of my girl. I choose to remain aware of the space between the first and the last and commit to making my life the best it can be.